A sense of purpose in life is an ingrained aspect of our daily lives. From grade school to adulthood, we are taught to aspire to a personal legacy that we must follow for the rest of our lives.
Sometimes, for many, it is described as our, “why.”
Our “why” is usually described as that intrinsic force that answers the question, “What is your reason for getting up every day?”
Answers like family, career, or wealth might come to mind, but I encourage you to dig deeper. While lifelong goals and long-term investments for the future may be a driving force in purpose, I challenge that purpose (especially in life matters) isn’t defined so simply.
Unfortunately, for many people, their “why” isn’t always defined by a person or place. Sometimes, a person’s, “why” can’t even be put into words. Rather, it can arise from a feeling.
Pay Attention To Your Emotional Responses
Simon Sinek, author and motivational speaker, breaks down a simple method to help you find your why: ask a friend, “why are we friends?” In his Youtube video, “Find You WHY,” Sinek explains that your “why” can be found in the space where the value you hold in another person’s life and the emotional response you experience from that value comes to life.
It Can Be Found Without Words
Have you ever wondered how we are able to connect to animals without words? How we are able to love things and sometimes fail to describe how much meaning it adds to our lives?
While some of us may have clear sense of purpose, others may still feel unclear on their path. Finding your “why” can almost feel indescribable.
See it From a Different Angle
Although a sense of purpose and fulfillment can be equated to happiness, there is another angle to view when finding our drive in life.
Allow me to reframe the question: What absolutely breaks your heart?
Think for a moment and ask yourself, “What hurts?”
The Secret Can Be Found in The Silence
When we stay still with our mind and allow ourselves to be open with our thoughts, we gain the ability the focus on the emotional reactions and needs we might be blindsided by. By focusing on our emotional aches, we allow ourselves the opportunity to nurture the feelings that drive us to keep going.
Allow yourself to be fully present in the experience and pay attention to the emotional responses you get when you think of what breaks your heart. Observe that feeling with kindness and curiosity. Then, reflect on it.
Chat Soon,
Mary
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